15 January 2012

When Do I Send Out the invitations

When do I send out the invitations? According to oncewed.com, �Traditionally, invitations go out six to eight weeks before the wedding. Start addressing the invitations 3 months before the wedding. If using a calligrapher, they might need 4 months prior.�

eHow.com seconds this advice, �For most weddings, the invitations should be mailed six to eight weeks before the big day. This allows time for the response cards to be returned, so you can make a final head count for the caterer and finish seating charts.�

Next, the website recommends, �When you invite people from out-of-town, send their invitations at least eight weeks in advance. They may need to make travel arrangements and/or take time off from work, so a longer notice is often required.�There was a particularly interesting rule mentioned on the site, �Even if you are cutting it close, there are no acceptable alternatives to mailing your wedding invitations. Good etiquette does not allow for invitations by email, phone or fax. Some of the invitations may be delivered by hand to very close members of the family and wedding party but only as a last resort.�

So, this all adds up to when you are meant to send invitations and prepare them. According to wedding.theknot.com, �Make your RSVP date two to three weeks before your wedding date -- this will allow enough time for you to get a final head count to the caterer (one week before) and to finalize your seating chart. If some guests still haven't responded by your deadline, give them a quick call and ask for their RSVPs (still via mail) so you have all their information.� And, �Your wedding website should be included on your save-the-date. A simple �AmandaandJon.com,� is all you really need. If you'd like (or if you don't have save-the-dates), you can include the web address in the formal invitations with an insert -- a small card that informs guests they can find more details online�

Not everything should be included in an invitation, though, �Including registry info on the wedding invitations or save-the-dates is still considered impolite because it can come off as though you're asking for gifts. Tell your wedding party, parents and close friends where you are registered, and let them fill guests in. Plus, most guests will know that all that extra information (that they didn't find on the invitation) is on your wedding website.�

And finally, �Address your invitations correctly -- to each guest by name, not �and guest� -- and guests should understand that the invite is meant for only those mentioned. If you find that some reply with their children's names added, give them a call and explain that you're having an adults-only wedding and that you hope they can still attend. If there are a lot of kids in your family, you may want to consider hiring or arranging for a babysitter. It's definitely not required, but it's a nice gesture. Just be sure to include this information on the wedding website.�
Good luck!