02 January 2012

Article 2 In a Series of Articles on Your Pretty Princess Wedding on a Pauper’s Budget

Article 2 In a Series of Articles on Your Pretty Princess Wedding on a Pauper�s Budget

It�s YOUR Wedding

The traditional wedding lament of all brides has been �It�s MY wedding,� when mothers, mothers of the bride, and other relations have tried to run the show. This lament has traditionally fallen on deaf ears.

But, if you are paying for more of the wedding yourself or if you are trying to control costs, you have more of a say in how the wedding will unfold.

For instance, if you are trying to keep costs down, the guest list will reflect the people you really want there, not your third cousin�s ex wife�s nephew (unless he really is a close friend of yours.)

You can also keep the wedding costs under control by limiting the number of attendants. Every member of your extended family does not need to be part of the wedding party. You can tell them your budget simply does not allow for this and ask them to sing in a duet or read a poem instead.

If you are planning a wedding on a budget, it also frees you to think through all of the aspects of a wedding. Is the Unity Candle ceremony important to you? If not, ditch it and save $50.

If you are planning a wedding on a budget, insist on having more control over the details. This (hopefully) once in a lifetime experience can be brought in at the cost allocated only if you don�t give in to everyone else�s wishes.

Cut the Crap

In the rest of this report, I�m going to tell you how to get the best deals on numerous parts of the wedding. But before I do that, I want to recommend that you cut the crap.

That is, what parts of the wedding or wedding gear do you NOT really need? There is an entire wedding industry that exists solely to sell you stuff. Brides often feel guilty if they don�t buy it. They think that they might miss a momento 50 years from now if they don�t buy it. But think about the number of moves you�ll make in your lifetime and the current living space you have and ask yourself whether you will actually keep all of those wedding �things.�

For instance, are matching �Bride� and �Groom� Champaign flutes really necessary? Are you going to keep them always and forever? Personalized flutes can cost $80 and up. Do you really want the thing you make a toast with taking up 1 percent of your budget?

Another thing you might want to consider is the markup on anything associated with a wedding. Unity candles can cost $100 in the special wedding section of a store. But, a $12 candle from Target could serve the purpose just as well.

Also, think about all of the clothing that gets sold with �bride� on it. Sure, you want to let the world know that you�re married, but six months from now, are you still going to want to wear sweats that say �bride�? Your identity may be wrapped around getting married right now, but later, those clothes may actually be embarrassing.

Your wedding party does not need all of the �stuff� either. Your best friend is never going to wear that �maid of honor� sweat shirt again. Don�t feel compelled to buy these trivial things that add up to big budget items.

Finally, think about what personalized �swag� is really necessary at a wedding. Do your reception guests really need matchbooks with your names on them? All of those things add to the total bottom line price, and many of them don�t add any real value to the event.